matrescence and chemical rewiring of the mother brain. how i've come up against and learned to channel the animalistic 'mom rage' response to perceived threats.
!! like, thank goodness. sometimes we just need someone to hold our hand and get us to the next point. i'm glad it came through <3 thank you so much for reading!
deeply relatable. of course, safety first etc etc but also there's like a 99% chance i'd have done the exact same thing you did (remember the subway incident...and that was pre child!!). i'm glad other folks that day showed compassion <3
While reading this I seriously felt like you were reaching through the screen and giving me a big hug. With my first born, I was 100% on my own and I guess never struggled with the mom rage too much. But with my second? Oh my… I couldn’t understand why I was so angry over small things. Mom rage is so hard to navigate through. Thank you for sharing your story!
<333 i am so so glad this resonated. and my hope is to give you a big hug through the screen! this shit is confusing and disorienting. thank you for sharing yours <3
Loved this! Mom rage is so real. I feel this anytime someone in Brooklyn gets too close to my stroller with a cigarette or anytime a cyclist runs a stop sign as I’m crossing the street with baby. It’s our instinct to react and I believe this is a good thing, even when it comes out imperfectly.
Kudos to you and Dan for handing crazy situations with grace. And building that level of trust takes some serious hard work!!
omgosh i had a courier run over my kid's front wheel on his stroller once!! horrifying. and i agree, totally a good and important instinct, but oowee, sometimes i wish it came out... differently hahah. thank you so much <3
Mom rage is really like no other, but you were somehow able to put words to the experience! The rage I felt when I was walking with my son in a stroller one day and a woman in a car cut me off still makes me seethe if I think about it for too long. Mama bear instincts are wild 😤
I'm in no way an authority on this topic, but the article resembles a lot of what happens to women during peri- and menopause years. Rage. But it has a different basis. Instead of protecting a newborn, it's shedding an old you and providing some clarity and agency. And yes, it scares the shit out of the husband, too, when it comes out strong!
To those wondering: it's about the hormone changes (no duh Bill! <insert slap up side the head here>) - estrogen and progesterone. I'm not the science nerd but I've been learning from enough doctors that are becoming more educated on this and sharing it, that both the female and male brains are very much affected by hormone and changes in them. In essence, what Annaliese experienced was the rage 15 year old boys feel when filled with tons of testosterone - the level of impulsivity is unreal. And I see menopausal women going through a similar experience. And I'll be clear, this is not my domain except that learning about it gives me the ability to provide compassion when the rage targets me.
I saw 'mom rage' in the subject line and never clicked an email so fast. I'm 4 months pp and feel this so hard.
<333 you are so not alone. hope these stories are comforting reminders of that. you're doing amazing.
Holding you tight. You are not alone
What a valuable reality-check for new (and old) moms ♥️ And also a reminder to forgive yourself for being hormonal, maternal, and human ❤️🩹🥲
The man who gently guided you through the gap near the trash truck brought tears to my eyes. ❤️ thank you for so much vulnerably written here!
!! like, thank goodness. sometimes we just need someone to hold our hand and get us to the next point. i'm glad it came through <3 thank you so much for reading!
deeply relatable. of course, safety first etc etc but also there's like a 99% chance i'd have done the exact same thing you did (remember the subway incident...and that was pre child!!). i'm glad other folks that day showed compassion <3
hahaha okay TRUE. and me too <3
While reading this I seriously felt like you were reaching through the screen and giving me a big hug. With my first born, I was 100% on my own and I guess never struggled with the mom rage too much. But with my second? Oh my… I couldn’t understand why I was so angry over small things. Mom rage is so hard to navigate through. Thank you for sharing your story!
<333 i am so so glad this resonated. and my hope is to give you a big hug through the screen! this shit is confusing and disorienting. thank you for sharing yours <3
Loved this! Mom rage is so real. I feel this anytime someone in Brooklyn gets too close to my stroller with a cigarette or anytime a cyclist runs a stop sign as I’m crossing the street with baby. It’s our instinct to react and I believe this is a good thing, even when it comes out imperfectly.
Kudos to you and Dan for handing crazy situations with grace. And building that level of trust takes some serious hard work!!
Love this vulnerable piece ❤️
omgosh i had a courier run over my kid's front wheel on his stroller once!! horrifying. and i agree, totally a good and important instinct, but oowee, sometimes i wish it came out... differently hahah. thank you so much <3
Mom rage is really like no other, but you were somehow able to put words to the experience! The rage I felt when I was walking with my son in a stroller one day and a woman in a car cut me off still makes me seethe if I think about it for too long. Mama bear instincts are wild 😤
!!!! i relate so hard to this. all of the sudden moving vehicles are the scariest thing ever. and with good reason! mama bears unite <3
ALL of the emotions are turned up 10x for me. I feel you deeply.
ooft REAL <3 how far postpartum are you? (not that it matters LOL, i feel this at every stage, but especially early on)
1 month 😝 so very much in the newness of it all. Grief. Joy. Bliss. Anger. All the things.
oh girrrrl 🤘🤘🤘 let’s rock hahah. congratulations !! and here for you.
I totally understand. 🫶 Check out my page, you might resonate with some of my poetry.
thank you so much, Chelsey, you get it!
I'm in no way an authority on this topic, but the article resembles a lot of what happens to women during peri- and menopause years. Rage. But it has a different basis. Instead of protecting a newborn, it's shedding an old you and providing some clarity and agency. And yes, it scares the shit out of the husband, too, when it comes out strong!
To those wondering: it's about the hormone changes (no duh Bill! <insert slap up side the head here>) - estrogen and progesterone. I'm not the science nerd but I've been learning from enough doctors that are becoming more educated on this and sharing it, that both the female and male brains are very much affected by hormone and changes in them. In essence, what Annaliese experienced was the rage 15 year old boys feel when filled with tons of testosterone - the level of impulsivity is unreal. And I see menopausal women going through a similar experience. And I'll be clear, this is not my domain except that learning about it gives me the ability to provide compassion when the rage targets me.